The Biology of Resentment: Why Being a "Good Girl" Is Destroying Your Immune System

We are taught that anger is unladylike. Especially for professional women and healers, we are conditioned to be the peacemakers. The fixers. The ones who smooth everything over.

But what happens to all that swallowed anger? It doesn't disappear. It ferments. It turns into Resentment.

And resentment is not a benign emotion. It is toxic waste.

The Science: Psychoneuroimmunology Dr. Gabor Maté writes extensively about the link between suppressed emotion and physical illness. Here is the mechanism: When you chronically prioritize others over yourself (self-neglect), your body stays in a state of sympathetic arousal (fight-or-flight). But because you are "being nice," you aren't fighting or fleeing. You are freezing. This confusion suppresses your immune function. This is the biology of self-betrayal.

The Symptom: The Solar Plexus Block In energy medicine, resentment lives in the Solar Plexus Chakra (the stomach). This is the seat of your personal power. When it is blocked by decades of saying "Yes," you feel powerless. You feel trapped in a life you built. You may experience digestive issues, ulcers, or a deep, gnawing lack of confidence.

The Cure: Radical Disappointment To heal, you must do something terrifying: You must be willing to be the "Bad Guy." Setting a boundary often feels like starting a war, but it is actually an act of liberation.

The Tool: Cord Cutting In today's podcast, I guide you through a Cord Cutting Visualization. We visualize the obligation draining you. We pick up a pair of golden scissors. And we cut the tie. It sounds simple. But the energy shift is profound.

Stop Drinking the Poison If you are sick of being sick, you have to look at where you are leaking power. Are you the Martyr? The Perfectionist? Or the Warrior?

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It is time to drop the "Good Girl" act and step into your wisdom.

We rise together. Dr. Julie