THE RADIANCE RESET
Twelve weeks, one to one
You are not broken.
You have been tamed. By responsibility, by pressure, by twenty-odd years of putting everyone else's oxygen mask on before your own. Somewhere in there your body decided that softening was not safe and stopped offering it to you.
Your desire did not leave. It went underground waiting for conditions that never came.
Underground is not gone.
If you recognize yourself here
You are competent at everything except rest.
You love your husband and dread the moment he reaches for you, and the guilt about that is its own full-time job.
You have said "I'm fine" so many times you no longer check whether it is true.
You cannot remember the last time you wanted something just because you wanted it.
You have googled hormones. Maybe you tried something. It did not touch the actual thing.
You are not shut down. You are on duty, and you have been for a very long time.
What this actually is
Twelve weeks. One to one. Just the two of us.
We rebuild your capacity in the order your nervous system actually works in, which is not the order the magazines use. Safety first. Then sensation. Then desire. You cannot skip to the third one, and every woman who has tried already knows that.
We move through seven phases:
Reclaim. You write down what you want without justifying it. For most women this is the first time in decades.
Regulate. You come off duty. We find out what your body has been bracing against and give it somewhere to put that down.
Reawaken. Sensation before sex. What you loved before you were useful.
Reframe. The resentment nobody let you say out loud, and the rules you were handed that you never agreed to.
Radiate. Receiving. Most women are far worse at this than at giving, and it is the thing standing between you and being touched well.
Integrate. The conversations. What you take back into your marriage, or into your own life, and how to stay in the room while you say it.
Emerge. You decide who you are now, and you say it out loud.
How it runs
Twelve weekly sessions, an hour each, by video.
Messaging between sessions, Monday through Thursday, so you are not alone with it for a week when something surfaces.
The book and the workbook. You will write in them. Nothing is scored and there is no behind.
Six women at a time. That is not scarcity marketing, it is the number I can hold properly while doing this work.
$3,000, paid in full, or three payments of $1,100.
Who this is not for
If what you are carrying right now needs clinical care, this is not it, and I will tell you so directly rather than take your money. Coaching runs alongside therapy. It does not replace it, and I am not acting as your counselor here.
If you want a quick fix, a supplement, or someone to tell you it is your husband's fault, we are going to disappoint each other.
How to start
You apply. It takes about fifteen minutes and it asks you real questions, so answer them the way you would say them out loud rather than the way you would write them on a form.
I read every application myself. If we are a fit, I send you a link to book a free forty-five minute conversation. If we are not, I tell you that too, and I point you somewhere better.
The conversation is not a sales call with a nice name on it. It is forty-five minutes of me asking and you talking, and you will leave with something you can use whether or not we ever work together.
Meet Your Guide: Dr. Juls
Julie Merriman, PhD, LPC-S, has spent thirty years as a licensed clinician and educator. She is the author of Are We Gonna Have Sex or What? and the host of the Sexy After 50 podcast. She lives on a ranch in Bosque County, Texas.
